Ask Ammanda: Lesbian sleep death – i would like intercourse but my partner does not Iâ€™ve been with my partner for 15 years. I really like her dearly and I also love every thing about our life together. Except, my partner wonâ€™t have sexual intercourse beside me and itâ€™s been like that when it comes to previous 10 years. We now have sex about twice a year and that is just if I instigate it. Iâ€™ve attempted speaking about the matter along with her saying Iâ€™d really want to be intimate more often, but she’s going to state it is because she just is not intimate, but she’s going to decide to try.