2 Concealed Ways We Sabotage Intimacy Within The Relationship We Want pt.2 Constant Closeness On the reverse side for this coin is the Stage Five Clinger. The вЂњneedyвЂќ person who desperately desires love, but never ever seems good adequate to enable anyone to undoubtedly love them. Any distance within the relationship causes agonizing ideas about being cheated on or abandoned. So that the anxious partner fills this space with texts, calls, and everything they are able to to obtain the reassurance they want that for the brief moment their partner is not there for them. As a result of heartbreaking memories of neglect, these individuals usually change who they really are in hopes to be loved, being unsure of that they’re becoming somebody different than the individual their partner fell deeply in love with. As a consistent closeness enthusiast, my armor could be the exhaustive efforts we supply to be liked.